I tried impressing Dindu one day with this software. But Dindu didn’t believe in astrology. His mind is pseudo-scientific (because if it was scientific then he surely would have believed in astrology). Questions like ‘how can a planet affect a human being’, ‘if two people are born at the same time, at the same place will they have same life/future’, ‘if planets decide everything then what are we doing here’ etc. inhibit his juvenile intellect. He even went to the extent of insulting astrology by mistyping it ‘asstrology’ whenever we had online discussions on the subject. He didn’t know that astrology is not for knowing the fate of a person, but to plan for the contingencies that arise because of the forces stronger than human beings. It’s like this - if you hear the forecast on the radio that it is going to rain, then you can plan to take umbrella with you. That’s what astrology is about – ‘this is what the big guys (planets, stars, constellations…) are planning in near future, how are you going to deal with it’.
Anyhow, I took Dindu’s date, time and place of birth, fed into this software I had bequeathed, and told him – ‘Machi! From May 11th to June 13th this year, Venus is squaring with Mars and Sun around Gemini, Cancer and Virgo; be careful with the girls, stay at home on Fridays.’ But he didn’t listen to me and eventually he was caught in the heavy rain without the umbrella.Dindu was hanging around with this girl for a few months now and on Friday the June 13th he took her to a Starbucks somewhere in Chennai. Then they went to watch ‘Gone Baby Gone’ at the local multiplex. Later in the night when Dindu went to drop her home, while she was closing the door of her house Dindu asked ‘Can I kiss you?’ Instead of kissing the gentleman she asked ‘Do you love me?’ It took Dindu some time to gather what just struck him. I know the first thing that would have crossed his mind was my advice ‘be careful with the girls, stay at home on Fridays’. But now it was too late and he had to answer the most frightening question he could imagine.
He tried starting with a smile and a long ‘hmmmmm…’ which was cut short by ‘Do you love me or not?’
Dindu said ‘I don’t want to answer this question because it…’
The girl snapped ‘Then why do want to kiss me? Why are we wasting all this time? $*** $** $*** **$*blah blah**$$**$*$*$’ I can imagine it was all special character conversation for a while. I mean, we all know a lot of people get impressed by such stereotype melodramas of the movies and TV serials. She snapped the door in front of Dindu and tambi’s Ethmoid bone had narrow escape from a lifetime fracture. From the moment of door snapping, for three days Dindu didn’t come out of his home. Apparently, the girl had mailed him the unprintable epitaphs of their friendship. Dindu didn’t know what got her suddenly, he had asked only for a kiss, not for all her hair!
After listening to Dindu’s tragic booby trap situation he had got into, I tried consoling the man.
Me: Come one man! Forget what happened. Move on.
Dindu: No macha! It was my mistake also. I shouldn’t have asked for the kiss.
Me: Oh come on man! That’s no fault of yours. But are you looking only for sex or do you see a future of this relationship?
Dindu: I don’t know man, there could have been a future, but I didn’t do anything wrong. I had just asked. God knows if I had kissed her without asking I would have been dead by now.
Me: If you don’t want ‘only sex’ then what are you really looking for?
Dindu: I don’t know man! May be I just want to know more about her! I don’t know her completely, how can I say whether I love her or not. Now she is not even giving me a chance to explain what I feel.
Me: Well, you could have also asked her whether she loves you or not!
Dindu: And if she had said ‘yes’ what would I say. I don’t want to make a commitment now and later back out. And she does not understand this.
Me: Well, you need to identify what is the basis of your relationship or friendship or whatever sinking-ship it is now!
Dindu: ?
Me: I mean people become friends with each other because of various reasons. Two people complain about the same thing or hate the same thing – they become friends. Two people are afraid of same thing – they become friends. Two people gossip about the same thing/people – they become friends. Such friendships don’t last longer than a Twenty20 match. What kind are you?
Dindu: Well, I can’t say. But this one was a little stronger. Our likes and dislikes matched, though some conflicts were there, yet we are, actually were easy going – but I don’t know, I won’t say it was so strong that I can commit myself for life.
Me: Then you have to tell her the same thing. See, the real test of the ‘-ship’ is when you both face challenges together, trust each other with almost like a bird trusts its wings – otherwise you cannot really go anywhere with the ‘-ship’. People stay together for all their life, but very few develop a strong relationship.
Dindu: Right man! But she is not even answering my calls. I don’t want both of us looking like fools in the future who made a stupid decision because of storming hormones or whatever TV dramas and movies they watched. I don’t want both of us to become each other’s weakness. I want her to become my strength and in turn I will become her strength.
Me: Macha! You already know the answer. Just let her be with herself for sometime. Let her logical self take over her emotional self and then you go and talk to her face to face. If she understands your point then you will know you can go forward, if she doesn’t understand and starts bullifying you, then you will know she is NOT the ‘one’.
Dindu: Ok man! I will do that. But before talking to her, I will give you a call to know if that is the right time for me to go and talk…
Me: What do you mean? I have already given you whatever I could say about the subject…
Dindu: No macha! I mean about the astrology thing. I mean, the day I go and talk to her, my planets should be at the right places…
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Gummthalakdi only...!!!
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